A woman asks if it’s wrong for a teacher to go to the girls’ dormitory
A mum has sparked a debate after expressing concern about a teacher entering the girls’ dormitory on a school trip.
The outraged women have taken to UK parents’ forum Mumsnet after her teenage daughter returned from a trip where her male teacher woke up early.
Claiming it was a ‘back-up issue’, she said: ‘A teacher in a bedroom of sleeping 13-year-old girls, that doesn’t sit well with me.’
She said she wanted to seek advice from others before telling the school about it, but received a backlash, with some even accusing her of “looking for something to be outraged about”.
However, others sided with the concerned mother and agreed that a teacher should have woken the pupils.
An anonymous woman has taken to UK parents’ forum Mumsnet to explain her concerns after a teacher entered the girls’ dormitory to wake up pupils during a school trip (stock image)
The concerned mother explained that the teacher’s actions are not right for her because she thinks he has shown poor judgment in the past
Explaining her concerns, the woman wrote: ‘Should a teacher have done this?
She said that while on a “boarding school trip”, the teacher entered “a girls’ shared dormitory to wake them up”.
“For me, it’s about backing up, and there was also a traveling teacher who could have done it,” she said. ‘The teacher has the form of having an “off” judgment sometimes.’
However, other commenters didn’t share his concerns, writing, “I’m sure he didn’t come in and take their covers off.”
Another said: ‘You seem to think of this as a news headline rather than reality.
“There’s nothing wrong with that, leave the poor guy alone.”
Many commentators disagreed with the mother and accused her of outrage, saying the teacher’s gender was only relevant if something inappropriate happened.
Someone said “There’s a whole bunch of girls in their pajamas in a room together, no I wouldn’t think a teacher woke them up”. As a teacher, I wouldn’t want to do it for that exact reason.
A poster claiming to be a teacher herself weighed in on the debate, saying: ‘What exactly happened that makes you think it’s inappropriate?’
“I am a teacher who often travels. I will knock on the door of each room, regardless of gender, wait for someone to answer, then enter the room to tell the students that it is time to get up.
“Teachers of both sexes do the same thing.
“Students are told in advance that they must all be ‘decently dressed’ when answering the door.
“We stay in hostels with rooms for 4 to 6 students on several floors. Do you expect a team of male and female staff to go together to wake up students based on the gender of the room?
Some agreed and said the behavior was wrong, adding that it should have been a teacher waking up the girls
“If he came in and walked over to their beds and watched them as they changed or got out of bed, then of course that would be different, but somehow I don’t think it would. be the case here”
However, others agreed with the poster saying “That’s a perfectly legitimate question.”
Another poster wrote ‘If he thinks it’s OK then he clearly doesn’t know much about backing up’. The teacher should have done it.
“And for those asking if it would be different if she was a teacher, well yes!
“Because 99% of sex crimes are committed by men.
Another said: “I can’t bother to explain all the patriarchy to you.
‘How girls are sexualized in school uniform, how they are sexually harassed in the same.
‘How there is one rape a week in schools in the UK, how a gender is constantly judged on what it wears and how slutty and/or prudish it is, how many men are sexually attracted to underage children, how 90% of sexual offenses are committed by men.
“If you honestly don’t understand why good men should pay a little attention to the privacy and dignity of girls, you haven’t listened.”
“Fortunately, most men know and act accordingly.
“I would expect an adult of the same sex to wake up from the door while there is another in the hallway. All safe as houses.
Another echoed the same sentiments, saying: ‘Luckily most schools and institutions CAN see what’s wrong, that’s why they write protocols on backing up which the majority of teachers follow.’
The wake-up call wasn’t the only grievance shared on the popular platform. The anonymous mother also revealed that her daughter’s phone usage was monitored by the same teacher.
Users were convinced that the woman’s daughter had behaved badly during the trip and were telling stories about the teacher in revenge
She said ‘During the trip he convinced himself that my daughter was on the phone. It wasn’t true, because his phone was there all the time.
“They weren’t allowed to take them and I supported that wholeheartedly. He asked the other children to let him know – using a code word – if anyone spotted her on the phone.
Pitting children against each other in this way is totally unacceptable and inappropriate.
Mumsnet users once again came to the teacher’s defence, writing: ‘His bad judgment or your 13 year old misbehaved on the trip, got shot and now makes his teacher a tyrant and a creep.
“Either could be true, but 13-year-olds tend to lie when they’ve done something wrong.
“Before you try to ruin the guys work, why not approach the school and ask about your daughter’s behavior to get both sides?”
The original poster replied ‘Who talked about ruining his job? In my opinion, this is not something a teacher should have done, but it seems that I am in the minority and that is good!